(What I think I look like — based on the template at imadeface)
(What I really look like)
On the runup to my birthday yesterday, I had planned to do two things I’ve never done before: Post a selfie and write a long post on what I’ve learned in the past, ahem, *mumble mumble* years of being on the planet and put this up on my birthday. Of course, I wasn’t able to do so yesterday, because, life (a.k.a., deadlines) got in the way. Also because, I was unsure about the selfies — I am not one for posting photos of myself online. There’s just something terribly self-indulgent and self-important to me about taking my own photo and posting it online for all the world to see. I am not one to call attention to myself; I’d rather others do it for me, haha! But in this age of self-promotion, people no longer look askance at you for blatant self-love. In fact, it’s expected. So why am I coming around to the idea of the selfie? Well, for one, it’s terribly hypocritical of me to say posting my picture is self-indulgent while I have a whole blog devoted to my own preoccupations. And two, it kind of makes sense to track what I look like over time. I sometimes look at myself in the mirror and see time make inroads on my face overnight! So, inspired by my friend Alexis’ link on FB about this project, I’ve decided to jump on the bandwagon this year.
Inspired by Michealle, another friend, I had also planned on writing aphorisms/life affirming things about what I’ve learned over the years, but on reflection, I couldn’t come up with anything! So I decided I’ll let other writers, musicians, poets, books, TV shows, movies that have inspired me do the talking. These are all sayings, bits of dialogues, songs, stuff I read that has struck me as true over the years — and has guided me and molded me to become who I am now.
“Maybe your true friends aren’t random people you meet at a mommy meet, they’re random people you meet at a college dorm.” — Marge Simpson
“Everything will be OK in the end. If it’s not OK, it’s not the end.” — The Best Exotic Marigold Hotel
“You’re happy. You’re healthy. And you’re loved. Everything else is just details.” — Self magazine
“It’s time to trust my instincts//close my eyes, and leap.”–“Defying Gravity,” Wicked
“So no one told you life was gonna be this way/Your job’s a joke, you’re broke/Your love life’s DOA…” — “I’ll Be There for You,” The Rembrandts
“Character — the willingness to accept responsibility from one’s own fate — is the source from which self-respect springs. To have that sense of one’s intrinsic worth which constitutes self-respect is potentially to have everything: The ability to discriminate, to love and to remain indifferent.” — “On Self-Respect,” Joan Didion
“Either our lives become stories or there’s just no way to get through them.” — Generation X, Douglas Coupland
“Half the things we tell ourselves is fiction.” — Steve Martin
“Although wherever you are going is always in front of you, there’s no such thing as straight ahead.” — The Passion, Jeanette Winterson
Fear less, hope more; whine less, breathe more; talk less, say more; hate less, love more; and all good things are yours. — Swedish proverb
“It is the tale, not he who tells it.” — “The Breathing Method,” Different Seasons, Stephen King
“Men are the last mystery. God is easy compared to men.” — White Teeth, Zadie Smith
“Men are like dogs, you can either neuter them, or train them.” — Karen Walker, Will&Grace
Old Auntie’s Tips for a Happy Life:
- The 24-hour handgun rule: Wait 24 hours before confronting someone you’re angry with.
- You can always call a guy if your tone is easy, happy, without emotion. Tone is everything.
- Remember: Every con has a pro, every pro, a con.
- If you’re worried about doing something because you think it’s going to be forever, it never is.
- We can recover from mistakes — people like to forgive.
- Just show up.
- Just buck up!
“Fall down, make a mess; break something occasionally and remember that the story is never over.” — Conan O’Brien
“Just because some of us can read and write and do a little math, doesn’t mean we deserve to conquer the universe.” Hocus Pocus, Kurt Vonnegut
“Be quiet, smile nicely, don’t let them know how smart you are. Eat all your food and don’t steal jam. Fuck whoever wants to be fucked and then forget about it.” — Bliss, Peter Carey
“Do you people cherish no mystery? Must everything be made plain? What’s wrong with a few minor enigmas to invest your life with a little spice?” — Wizard, John Varley
“You have to be capable of being in uncertainties, mysteries, doubts, without any irritable reaching for facts and reason.” — Yeats
“May you grow up to be righteous// May you grow up to be true// May you always know the truth and see the lights surrounding you…” — “Forever Young,” Bob Dylan
“The heart wants, what the heart wants. You don’t plan on making your life complicated, it just happens, and you don’t do it on purpose, and you don’t do it to hurt the people who love you. It just turns out that way sometimes.” — Anita Blake, vampire hunter, Narcissus in Chains, Laurell K. Hamilton
“Respect the delicate ecology of your delusions.” — Angels in America, Tony Kushner
“Happiness is someone to love, something to do and something to hope for.” — Chinese proverb
“All memory are traces of tears.” — 2046
“I love beginnings. After a beginning, everything can happen.” Just a Kiss
“Be bold and mighty forces will come to your aid.” — Almost Famous
“Why do cats sleep so much? Perhaps they’ve been trusted with some cosmic task, an essential law of physics — such as: If there are any less than five million cats sleeping at any one time, the world will stop spinning. So that when you look at them and think, ‘What a lazy, good-for-nothing animal,’ they are in fact, working very, very hard.” — Human Croquet, Kate Atkinson
“Cats? Cats are good. Half in, half out anyway.” — John Constantine
“Love is a matter of timing. It’s no good meeting people too early or too late.” — 2046
“Candy doesn’t need to have a point. That’s why it’s candy.” — Charlie and the Chocolate Factory
“You want to nice or you want to be effective? Choose.” — Angels in America, Tony Kushner
“Worse than the total agony of falling in love?” — Love, Actually
“The trick is to put a lot of work into it and make it sound easy.” — Eminem
“We’re never gonna survive unless we get a little crazy.” — Seal
“Coffee should be black as hell, strong as death and sweet as love.” — Turkish proverb
“… if only it were enough to stand, without the words.” — Cold Mountain
“Only in grammar can you be more than perfect.” — William Safire
“Read less, more TV.” — Dr Gregory House, House
It takes no time to fall in love, but it takes years to know what love is.” — “Life is Wonderful,” Jason Mraz
“Both defensible and ingenious, responsible, yet not obvious; contain surprises and conviction; imply an aesthetic and still welcome the exception; be British without being parochial, reflect the traditions as well as experiment.” — The Belles Letters Papers, Charles Simmons (good guideline for a magazine)
“Living is easy with eyes closed.” — “Strawberry Fields,” The Beatles (also tattooed on Charlie’s arm in Lost)
“Yes, life is hard; but if it were easy, everybody would be doing it.” — “Goodbye to All That,” Harlan Ellison
“I aim to misbehave.” — Captain Malcolm Reynolds, Serenity
“You can’t stop the signal.” — Mr Universe, Serenity
“We look for some magic solution to fix ourselves but none of us really know what we’re doing. And why is that so bad? That’s all we humans can do. Guess, try, hope. Just pray you don’t find yourself thinking you’ve got the answer. Because that’s bullshit. The trick is living without the answer… I think.” — Dr Perry Lyman, Thumbsucker
“The avalanche has already started. It’s too late for the pebbles to vote.” — “Goodbye to All That,” Harlan Ellison
“We must not confuse dissent with disloyalty. We must remember always that accusation is not proof and that conviction depends upon evidence and due process of law. We will not walk in fear of one another, we will not be driven by fear to an age of unreason if we dig deep in our history and our doctrine. And remember we are not descended from fearful men, nor from men who feared to write, to associate, and to defend the causes that for the moment are unpopular.” — Edward Murrow, Goodnight, and Good Luck
“Writing isn’t about making money, getting famous, getting dates, getting laid, or making friends. In the end, it’s about enriching the lives of those who will read your work, and enriching your own life, as well. It’s about getting up, getting well, and getting over. Getting happy, okay? Getting happy.” — Stephen King
“The most important things are the hardest to say. They are the things you get ashamed of, because words diminish them — words shrink things that seemed limitless when they were in your head to no more than living size when they’re brought out. But it’s more than that, isn’t it? The most important things lie too close to wherever your secret heart is buried, like landmarks to a treasure your enemies would love to steal away. And you may make revelations that cost you dearly only to have people look at you in a funny way, not understanding what you’ve said at all, or why you thought it was so important that you almost cried while you were saying it. That’s the worst, I think. When the secret stays locked within not for want of a teller but for want of an understanding ear.” — “The Body,” Different Seasons, Stephen King
And will I tell you that these three lived happily ever after? I will not, for no one ever does. But there was happiness. And they did live.” — Stephen King
“Books are uniquely portable magic.” – Stephen King
Writing is seduction. – Stephen King
The road to hell is paved with adverbs. – Stephen King
“If you don’t have the time to read, you don’t have the time or the tools to write.” — Stephen King
“Maybe…there aren’t any such things as good friends or bad friends—maybe there are just friends, people who stand by you when you’re hurt and who help you feel not so lonely. Maybe they’re always worth being scared for, and hoping for, and living for. Maybe worth dying for, too, if that’s what has to be. No good friends. No bad friends. Only people you want, need to be with; people who build their houses in your heart.” — It, Stephen King
“Hearts can break. Yes, hearts can break. Sometimes I think it would be better if we died when they did, but we don’t.” — Hearts in Atlantis, Stephen King
“Hope is a good thing, maybe the best of things, and no good thing ever dies.” — Stephen King
“Friends come in and out of your life like busboys in a restaurant, did you ever notice that?” — “The Body,” Different Seasons, Stephen King
“No one can tell what goes on in between the person you were and the person you become. No one can chart that blue and lonely section of hell. There are no maps of the change. You just…come out the other side. Or you don’t.” — The Stand, Stephen King
“One of the really bad things you can do to your writing is to dress up the vocabulary, looking for long words because you’re maybe a little bit ashamed of your short ones.” — Stephen King
“French is the language that turns dirt into romance.” — Stephen King
“The place where you made your stand never mattered. Only that you were there…and still on your feet.” — Stephen King
“I do not aim with my hand; he who aims with his hand has forgotten the face of his father.
I aim with my eye.
“I do not shoot with my hand; he who shoots with his hand has forgotten the face of his father.
I shoot with my mind.
I do not kill with my gun; he who kills with his gun has forgotten the face of his father.
I kill with my heart.” — The gunslingers’ oath, The Dark Tower series, Stephen King
“The beginning is the word and the end is silence. And in between are all the stories. This one is mine.” — Human Croquet, Kate Atkinson
“Know that joy is rarer, more difficult and more beautiful than sadness. Once you make this all important discovery, you must embrace joy as a moral obligation.: — Andre Gide
“And in the end, the love you take is equal to the love you make.” — George Martin (fifth Beatle)